Time with friends and family is always happy time ....

                               

 

I have been spending last few days with my family and childhood friends. And it has been one of the best times of my trip so far. Re living child hood memories is a part of it. But most importantly, it is more about surrounded by people who unconditionally want you to be happy and do well. In this blog, I am going to talk about effect family and friends have on you and how you can tap into their unconditional vibration to take you to happy place.

So far we have seen as to what we, as individuals, can do to be happy. Now let us look how friends and family can help you at that as well. Firstly, this is not about what friends and family can do to you or how they should behave to make you happy. I have seen and experience many times that the same F&F that I am going to talk about have done things that have made me angry and sad in the past. But that was when I was trying to rest my happiness on their actions rather than their presence. Over time I have understood that they are individuals as well who have their own direction of thoughts and own destinies to be fulfilled.

What changed for me was my time away from them. After moving to US in 2004, I soon started to realize how effective F&F were in relieving daily stress and putting you in different state of mind. I also realized how stupid I was to not look at them that way when I had the chance. Over the years, I have spent focused effort on building closed friendships and repairing and maintaining family bonds that uplift me.

This is what happens; when you are with close family and friends, you are not someone you try to project in everyday life. You become yourself. You are in midst of people who have seen you struggle and who have seen you succeed. That removes the judgement lenses that everyday world looks you at with. The comfort of non judgement removes your internal resistance and takes you to a place where you can enjoy the moment. Enjoying the moment is what happiness is all about.

Also, when you are with your F&F, you go back in time when life was easy (childhood) and live those memories together. This helps you understand that your current reality is not that carved in the stone and can change. And this realization helps reduce stress drastically resulting in happy thoughts.

What should I do? Start looking at your Family as source of non-judgmental vibration. Understand that what they provide you is different than anything anyone will. This will let you look past the outside resistance. Yes, they will do things that will agitate you, but at the end of the day, they want best for you. They provide you with best environment to blossom and forget about stress.

Second, cultivate close group of friends that help you forget about your stress and be yourself. This is important especially when you are living away from home. Remember, they can be sometimes annoying and will do things that may counter your upbringing. But what’s important is how they make you feel. If they make you comfortable enough to be yourself, don’t let them go…

Lastly, when it comes to communicating with F&F, get out of texts and IMs. In person interaction is the best. It gets you to know a person at different level. The body language, their emotions, feelings etc. can be assimilated by doing it. If face to face is not possible, pick up the phone and call them. In short, be personal in communication.

I hope this blog will help you maintain your family ties and develop and nurture your friend circle.